It is totally ok. I understand the feeling. Gets to be where even the things that sound "small" to others feel like huge boulders being hurled at you.

Next time he starts. I would just be a bit stern. Tell him matter-of-factly "I will get to it when I get to it." If he kept it up, I would say - "you can go ahead and try to do it if its too hard to wait.." and if he did try, just monitor him to make sure he does not hurt himself but don't stop him - so you can get the point across that you are there helping him.

But - that's me. I even get stern like that with my husband at times when he starts in on me and I've had enough.

You seem to be a bit more compassionate and lenient than me though. That's both good n bad. Good that you can show so much love but bad bc you will get hurt so much easier.

I am sorry he was so miserable today. I had hoped you would have a good Thanksgiving. ❤