Some of us herein did ok, and some did not. I hope all your lives smooth out somewhat soon.
My dad did blow up at me yesterday as well over wanting me to do the dishes when I said I'd do them while letting a few things I was about to make simmer. My mom immediately tried to guilt me. I had already put one earbud in place when she started, and then I put the other in and my hand up as a stop sign, directly in her line of sight, so that she would see I wasn't having it.