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Originally Posted by SalingerEsme
Being "held" is supposed to be about object constancy ( some of us didn't develop it well as babies) , so that we feel deeply we are held in mind by our therapist all the time, even if we are not in session. That experience of being held is supposed to be the moment of realizing that, and having the adult version of being picked up and cradled in a parents arms.
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***This is just my take and is subject to change as more information and experiences occur***
I'm not sure I directly link the feeling of being held to object constancy.
For me object constancy is about believing, remembering, knowing the object is still there when not seen. For T, it means that the relationship, trust, feelings, and person still exists even if we are not together. That she is the same person (same role, behaviors, feelings) when she returns.
Being held seems to be more of a moment in time, in fact significantly not consistent.
I can see how having the feeling of being held, lends itself to object constancy as it provides a powerful positive feeling towards another person, strengthening the relationship with, trust to, and feelings for that other person.