Well friends it has happened again only both ex husbands are tag-teaming.

A repeat yes, but perspective is due here. Husband #1 is biological father of my adult children. Husband #2 is their stepfather. They have always had a very close relationship with their father but it is with their step-dad that I find their relationship questionable. He was very public with his carrying on, bullying, and emotional abuse; factors which defy my imagination that his step-children would remain devoted to him.

Hours apart last night both exes really kicked me hard in the teeth.

Their father called to tell me not to buy such-in-such for them as he had done so. These were items in the neighbourhood of $500. He knows I am on disability. Why would he have called if it wasn't to rub my nose in it?

Then their step father called practically ordering me to buy them outdoor gear suitable for skiing. Once again he waived in my face that he had rented a ski chalet for the holidays. He spends a great deal on them including trips, etc. Again, I can only think that he was calling to purposely hurt my feelings.

On your friendly advice I have spoken with my children. I have told them I feel hurt that they consistently choose him over me. Their reaction? Was to turn it back on me and lay a guilt trip. I have been basically told to get over myself and they remind me that it was my choice to leave behind that lifestyle. I only have myself to blame.

Again, I don't expect you all to solve this quandry. I simply needed the opportunity to share.