My mom when she was alive would get angry at something I said on the phone & woukd hang up on me. It was always a YEA, wont be hearing from her for a few days till she calls back as if nothing happened. Some moms are just very difficult to deal with. I never minded if she blew up, I would just blow her off. Irritated her yes, but she learned that was my consistent response to her behavior whether she liked it ir not & there would be NO apologies either.

Stand strong with your boundaries. She needs to get to know who you are, not what she wants you to be.