I think you need to educate yourself on what Bipolar is all about. I get a sense from your writing expectations that you think this is like he being diagnosed with the flu & when he finally "gets well" he will no longer have these problems you are dealing with now. What you seem to be missing is that THIS IS A LIFE LONG CONDITION. The mood changes will continue FOREVER. If lucky they will find meds that will help stsbalize those mood swings but in reality they NEVER work forever & this is something you will have to deal with forever if ylu choose to stay with him.

NO , there isnt a switch that changes him from one person to another. There IS a chemical imbalance in his brain that causes his moods to change. They can rapid cycle or it can change over long periods of time.

This is a life long mental ILLNESS just like diabetes or MS is a life long physical illness. Unlike the flu. It never goes away. Meds can help but they most times dont control it totally.

So, if you ONLY like him when he is like he was before he was in the hospital then are you planning on being around him knly when he is like that? What kind of relationship is that? A soulmate takes a person for better or worse. So you dknt want to be around his worst & he has no interest in being around you then either. What kind of a soulmate is that?

You have a lot of learning to do so that ypu can really determine if all these moods is something you can tolerate because whether you like it or not, this total package of moods is what you get when you get him. You dont het to pick & choose.