
Nov 25, 2017, 10:11 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2015
Location: Northeast USA
Posts: 596
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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
I wish I'd never told T1 that I'd Googled her. She seemed really bothered by it, and I think that damaged our relationship.
I regret telling MC that it bothered me that he wasn't going to tell us about his wife's death. I should have just left him alone about that topic at that time. He was dealing with so much stuff of his own, the last thing he needed was me bringing my own feelings into his personal loss. (Yes, I know, therapy is supposed to be about the client, not the T, but with something like this...) I feel that damaged our relationship in some way (even though I later apologized profusely for it and said I wasn't looking for forgiveness, that I'd just felt badly about how I acted and wanted to tell him I was sorry).
Nothing yet for T2--well, I may have already told him something I'll regret later, just don't know it yet! At first I regretted being so open about some things so quickly, but I think that ultimately just ended up sort of jump-starting my therapy, so that we could get to the real issues sooner.
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Like you LT, i regret telling blank slate T that I Googled her as it was all downhill after that!
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