We cant but she is.

The thing is it has nothing to do with devotion to learn about their MI. It has to do with helping us come to terms with the situation.

I left my H 5 years before I researched Aspergers because many said his behaviors I describes sounded very much like that. I didnt have money to file for the divorce. The emotion I felt toward him was hate not love but emotions are emotions & understanding what one is dealing with can be the best help for the person dealing with the other person. In my case the research also helped me understand the father I had grown up with.

OP sounds like she thinks this is all JUST a temporary situation & its NOT. Coming to terms & understanding the Bipolar can actually make the break up easier to let go of the person if there is understanding that THIS is what you will be dealing with forever.

Yes I wondered if any of the hospital situation was actually true or just an act to get rid of the relationship & her. Could just besaying the NICE things to mske it sound more real... but she trust him So....in the scenario she is chosing to believe, she NEEDS to grasp the reality of what she is going with.