I think the problem here is that Alisa thinks that she is in a relationship while those of us who understand functional relationships KNOW otherwise. So for Alisa to handle it like the relationship she thinks she is in, it would be good to understand what she is being led to believe is going on. Im sure that when you think yourself in a functilnal relationship leaving it is as difficult as if it were actually a functional relationship for Alisa. The important thing is to not only have therapy to help but to take as many actions as possible to actually get in touch WITH THE TRUTH, whatever that may be & if it happens to be true that he really is dx'ed with bipolar then being aware & realizing what is being experienced now with all thebfluxuations in moods, this would be exactly what having a relationship with him will be like forever. Hopefully this would not be acceptable & realizing that person she knew will NEVER be there permanently EVER AGAIN.

If in reality he actually has bipolar is thisbwhat you want to deal with FOREVER?

If in reality he is lying about his condition to get you to break up with him.....is that what you really want to tolerate forever.

There comes a point where REALITY needs to be dealt with, not what one HOPES it will be or wishes it will be BUT WHAT IT IS & it is important to get in touch with that reality so that a WISE decision can be made forbyour future instead of sitting there wishing that in a few years things will be back to what they used to be like. Problem is with either scenario that is IMPOSSIBLE & will NEVER HAPPEN. That past relationship you are holding onto is NOT todays REALITY & its time to get in touch with what NOW is holding for you. You need to know the truth so you will be sble to quit holding onto the dream you are clinging to with wishful expectation that is not based on reality.