I'm having a tough time with my in-laws and my wife lately.

From my point of view, they hate my politics, they let me know they think some of my interests are stupid, and they let me know this virtually every time we're together. (I should mention that my wife and I are similar in politics, but she does side with her family on some of the issues).

Because of their reactions, I spend even less time with them. They notice, and in response, they've just become even more rude. Now I get comments like, "you hate our family" and "haven't you left(this particular get-together) yet?"

I've talked to a counselor about this, and she suggests that it's my wife's job to change their mind about me. I don't think this is going to happen. Ever since I met her, she made it obvious that she believes her family is without flaw, and told me what they think of me, and what I need to change.... It's a ridiculous amount of group-think.