For what it's worth, I'm on board with your T's effort thing, LT. There have been times when my spouse has come home from working a twelve-hour shift, gently scraped me off the couch, made us both dinner, and gently put me back on the couch. She says marriage isn't 50/50 all the time, and there will likely be times in the future when I am healthier than her (mentally and/or physically) and I will carry more weight than she will be able to then. Her kindness has really motivated me to do more around the house as I have started to get better.