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Originally Posted by Rayne_
It sounds like you're doing pretty well. Your last post seemed positive-I hope you can keep that up. You do sound kind of tired, or maybe it takes a lot of effort to push aside the thoughts. Maybe you need to rest and relax, grieve a bit more before you get to a healthy, positive place? You can do it.
It was a very positive move to quit seeing her, hope you can feel good about yourself for the strength and self respect it took to do what you did.
I know how difficult it can be to get in a good place. If it's held in, it can come out as bitterness or anger if left unattended.
Im still harboring those feelings with my T, though ive seen him a couple of times recently. Dont feel comfortable discussing with him...
Its so hard when they dont own their stuff or make any effort to make amends. Though with your T, its her loss as she never earned your respect. I guess im trying to say, please talk if you need to.  |
Some days are easier than others. I’m trying to focus more on me and my goals . I’ve developed personal goals. It’s not easy after seeing my T for so long to move on but we’ve had issues before. Now she has so much going on that she has no idea how detrimental it is when you’re affecting a client in a negative way. It’s true if I don’t vouch for myself then who will. I sacrifice quite a bit and I adjust for therapy but if she’s not willing to work with me and she’s working against me then what’s the point.
Sorry that you feel that way . I’ve been in that position many times with my T. It’s not easy to deal with and yet to discuss your personal life. It seems that when they don’t own up to things or they don’t try to correct what they’ve caused certain clients to take a few steps back. A positive relationship makes helps me move forward and want to open up but one where there’s a n issue I close up as well. Then at the end of every session I would wonder if it was worth going and spending the time and money. Just disappointing.
The choice is to stay and pay her and only have 1/2 of her attention if that and then her be absent during a crisis or just end it all. Although it’s not easy I think it was best to end it.