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Originally Posted by cielpur
Wow, so your ex stole $11K from you? I'd say, give yourself a LOT of time to recover from that relationship before you consider dating or becoming serious with another person.
Don't beat yourself up either. That won't help you heal. It just postpones your emotional healing -- to feel stupid and ashamed.
Anyone in your shoes would feel the way that you do, because of what he put you through. Just don't rush yourself.
Being alone isn't a bad thing. Being alone will strengthen you emotionally again, as you heal. The worst thing you can do, is to put yourself in a position where you are vulnerable to the other person so that he takes advantage of you again.
As you know, men target women they view as weak and vulnerable to their charms and lies. Hopefully, you'll be able to spot those types online (as that seems to be where people now meet each other to date). Words mean nothing. Actions mean everything.
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God no!!! He did not steal $11K from me. I spent a total of 11K on him supporting him fully and paying for all our trips to see each other. He wasn't working.....however, he did steal meds from me.
I know for me that the best way to get over someone is to start dating other people. Maybe that doesn't make sense to you, but I won't get involved too quickly -- or I will try not to at least. There is one guy I like that I am getting to know better, but I'm also talking to two other people.
I have learned a lesson --- be discerning and like you said, actions must match words!!! I am looking out for any red flags this time. Last time, I ignored all the red flags, so now I am trying to be much more vigilant.
Thanks for your thoughts....
