I think there are a lot of measures that are used by society in general to measure people against one another, be it fair or not. Sadly these same measures are sometimes leveled against us by our own family or friends, without regard to our own definitions of success or fulfillment or what we are seeking in life.

I know it is much easier said than done, but learning to ignore the judgement of others can be liberating and help ease the overall burden of what you are dealing with. I can relate to the sentiments you expressed, as many of my relatives are very wealthy and see my lack of riches as a personal failing.