oh, a thousand thanks for this! I have a particular family member who makes it thier business to impose crap....designed to make me feel small. It's bug hard, but (finally) I've decided ignore this game n let them have the argument. Yup, it kills, just to take their crap at the time. Then I remind myself that I don't have to let their judgements, etc count....I get to go home! Lol, it could be worse, I could let it influence me, or indeed, be this person. It's not easy to wash. Good luck x