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Originally Posted by limp
Hello. I have a serious problem regarding dating. I'm currently 23, I'm coming from a simple, poor family and i'm a college student. I just can't allow myself to have a girlfriend. Everytime a girl is showing interest in me, i have to push her away because i feel like she deserve better. I feel like i will be a burden for her. I don't have money to take her out or to buy her gifts, i don't have a car to take her to places. I just can't let someone love me. I met girls that don't care about this, but if i let her be with me i feel like I'm completely ruining her image. I'm ok with being single but the loneliness is rotting inside. I feel guilty for being with her and not letting her be with someone more rich and famous. And the worse part, i feel everyone around me judging her for picking me.
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You sound sensitive about girls feelings and needs--that's positive. You are in college in order to graduate and eventually obtain a good job. If you work hard and are successful--you will eventually be able to provide all these things. It is just going to take time. In the meantime, think of dating as fun and friendship. Friends are not about image--they are about who we naturally connect too. Sometimes it is more about chemistry than anything else. You are only 23--someday you can have a car, girl, job and all the rest. There are girls at college on the very same journey. Next time, try not to push girls who show interest away--just enjoy it and tell them you appreciate them!! College is a good time for lighthearted (not to serious) dating. Many people do not get that serious about dating until they have graduated because they are concentrating on their studies.
