Oh, Jesus, Mandy, welcome back anyway. This is what blew me out of the water with therapy.

I dont hear that she said something like:

" Mandy, this is going to be a tough one considering what we were talking about last time......... but I'm going to have to alter our apt, we can talk about it then, and i'm sorry".

Another thing, at the risk of making myself disliked, ......... was there by any chance some hidden internal heat-seeking magnet that drew you to someone who was going to do something like that?

I mean, we need to be challenged, but in a straight forward way, not crazy-making - sneaky like that. That is the kind of thing that happened to me with the Ts in the US. In contrast, the other ones I've found are to too nice, the fluffy sort dont do it for me either.
But we shouldnt put up with this countertransference b.s. , -then they say we do the countertransference. Go for it Mandy, show her what you'r made of, tell her if she has to cancel, you expect her to do so with sensitivity and respect, as you would do for her if the positions were reversed, as how you would treat someone in a sensitive position.

Ok, then come back and coach me to do the same! : )

We have to take a stand, its not enough to explain how you felt, we have to insist, ......... its just not good enough them doing this kind of thing. God, I can see it so clearly now when this happens to someone else.
love, river.