We can only do as well as we can do! Learning to live with ourselves and not put ourselves down can be half the battle. Everybody screws up but I don't think that's anybody's intent.

Do you do any reading or self-help sort of work? In my 20's-40's I was a big reader, read 3-5 books a week. I found a lot of "teen"/young adult novels helped me enormously because their characters seemed to be struggling with the same sorts of personal problems I was? Just using book characters as examples got me a long way on my own.