I didn’t see LG’s post as not being supportive. She was simply giving her take and experience. I saw it as is being really supportive. I agree with her about the only people that we can control are ourselves and our own reactions. I don’t think anybody said it was easy. When I watch people be reactive all the time it seems exhausting to them. It’s also not something I’m going to try to take care of because I can’t. I have admitted on many occasions I tend to be more like you describe your husband as being. That doesn’t mean I am saying it’s easy to be on the other side