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krazibean said:
Instead of asking why you HAVE to say all the details, why not ask why you don't WANT to say all the details.

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I AGREE! I also think no one should tell you what you have to or must do. We have reasons why we are protecting ourselves... BUT To me its not important that you do talk. I think its important that you know WHY you dont want to talk. If those reasons ARENT based upon fear then, I don't think there are huge reasons to talk about the details. If they ARE based upon fears, then I think you still need not talk immediately, but instead, talk about your fears about saying more...why do you have them, what are they protecting you from, do you have resources that can help you. Once you talk through these, you will become more comfortable about saying more.

Best

ev