congratulations! you've arrived at one of lifes "great truths"...now, include yourself and your family and you'll be ready to ask the next question. "must I spend the rest of my life hating people (including myself)"? one of my favorite quotes goes like this..."if you don't think that you're crazy, you're probably not paying close enough attention" you can substiute the word "evil" and its still true. ultimatly, we hate/love in others what we hate/love about ourselves...