mandy, often I've heard the story of two sons of an alchoholic father, one grew up to drink and the other not, when asked why they both had the same reply...because I saw my father drink! being an adult is about living your life for you and making decisions that are in your best interest and the interests of those you care for. This is a situation that has troubled you for sometime and I understand you may feel powerless to stop it. I pray that your sons will learn the lesson of what happens when you abuse alchohol by watching your husband...even at the expense of the lost respect. God bless you..