Thanks so much everyone. It means a lot to me. This is going to take awhile to process and i might not ever have answers. I do have the father's address , although he does not have mine nor his phone number. I decided I'll send flowers to the house. Hopefully he will reach me when I leave my contact info with a card, but if he doesnt, Ill just have to accept it. Something that I feel might help the most: since I didn't know about his death or the wake, I do know where he is buried. I will go to the grave site and bring flowers. I think that might give me some peace and a feeling that I'm doing something in his memory.