I don't do too well with the cognitive or CBT self-help stuff either, which is mostly predominant these days. There are other self-help books that have helped me a lot though (in addition to therapy). I'm currently getting a lot out of a book called "Growing Up Again." I think that everybody here ought to read that one. You have to take it slow and do the exercises and work through things. I take the book to therapy and talk about what I'm learning, and T sometimes corrects my understanding of some of it, or shows me how it related to me that I might have missed, or has me do more processing in a certain area. Without a T you will just have to keep checking yourself and make sure you are really getting it.

There are others that I have found useful too. Try the self-help book and forum on this website (the author participates on the forum and is happy to help you apply it to yourself and your situations). If you look around, you will find some that will speak to you, and others maybe not as much. When you find a good one, bring it here and talk about it. Then look for more like that.