So at 10 p.m., my cell rings. I notice it's a local number, but am unsure whether to answer. I decide to, and it's MC (not his cell or regular office #--maybe a different office phone, since same exchange?). He wanted to discuss the e-mail I'd sent Monday, where I was critical of how he seemed to just want to focus on changes I should make in the marriage (rather than stuff H could do, too). It's like he sensed I'd just been telling T today that my transference for him was fading...

I think the call helped? I understand a bit more now where he's coming from, that he doesn't want me dependent on H (or him) to feel OK about myself. I feel better about things with him post-call, but not nearly as transference-y or warm and fuzzy as a call like that would have left me, say, 6 months ago. So think the transference is definitely fading, which is probably a good thing. But I'm also not upset with him anymore. More of a slightly positive feeling, I guess. Since he made the effort to make things right with me.