I talked to my boyfriend tonight, even though I pretty much knew what he'd say. I asked him why can't we hire help, and he named the same reasons (cost, risk of them throwing out things we don't want them to, "notoriety" with the neighbors) and he mentioned something he hadn't before: His job does periodic background checks. My stomach is in knots, wondering if I should continue my pursuit to get out, but I can't take living like this. I'm also worried about going to the doctor tomorrow (he wants to see me because I've had some wheezing going on). I don't want to hurt him, but should I just stay, because it might affect his career? I don't know what to do but I can't stand this.