(((LT))) Good news / bad news! I get the feeling that what you really mean by transference and attachment is, is this T (or MC) taking my side against H? If he is, then i feel attached / transference. If he takes H's side, then off with his head!

The good news is: I dont fault you for this at all - you will see in my previous posts that i have stated many times that my current t ALWAYS agrees with me; hence attachment, transference, gifts, hugs, overweening positivity that makes other people here wanna puke.

The bad news is: those wilty wily t's expect to use the transference as a weird psychological anvil to GET YOU TO CHANGE! BECAUSE YOU WANT TO PLEASE THEM!

I think they try to appeal to the 3 year old (or whatever ages) in us. Mine was grateful for the attention - there were a LOT of neglected needs just wandering around. Yesterday on my way to t's there were a couple of young women with a black and white dog and i go, "its the dog from Babe!" They laughed, but my voice sounded weird -childish ? - even to me.

Anyway, just some thoughts.