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Old Nov 30, 2017, 01:18 PM
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Originally Posted by 1992ArgentinaMan View Post
I have this "problem",dont used to have it, but lately ive been with this.

Since a while that ive been just spending the time at home, just going outside very little, and if I go its just for buy things at the store, or move using a taxi.

So all the time at my home makes me create a barrier between me and the outside.

I really dont like people here where I live, Im from Argentina, i have a very cultural gap with the most amount of people, I feel like a foreign.

I started to have this rejection to my compatriots a time ago, then i just stopped/missed to think about this, but sometimes came back.

I dont like the way people here talk, less than how they think (which think and talk is kinda the same).

I dont like the culture here. Argentina have really low knowledge about global culture and history, talk with people here is pretty poor.

So I make my own bubble with my own interests in my head, and when i go outside the bubble just pops and i feel all so... disagreeable.

Its not that i have a problem with this, its not agoraphobia, or something that makes me not function, its just a something i thought good to share, and see if other people can relate with this.

But yes, i algo have that strange feeling due the lot of time spending at home so when i go outside i have to get used to the feeling, to the movement, and all of that, my mind goes really slow lately, Im a mess, ive been sleeping bad, wake up at night, tired at day.
I go through this too. in me its called isolating behavior related to my depression, and bipolar disorder and when pregnant/ after giving birth its called postpartum depression in me.

what helps me is giving myself a bit of time to enjoy being home with my home and family, and then I kick my behind in gear and get back to doing things outside little by little. I love my family and my new home (well new to me) and my new little person in our lives but at some point that natural instinct that has been part of the human race since the dawn of time. you know that survival instinct that the cave people had of safety in numbers, got to find food, clothing .... get some work done kinds of instincts kick in for me and when it does all I want is to get out of the home talk with others and hit the stores, go back to work.

my point for me there is only so long I can purposely isolate myself before the human being instincts kick in and either I honor those instincts and do something or I can make myself more problems by fighting to stay isolating. for me I'd rather not cause myself to become more frustrated and agitated with my situation, when those instincts kick in I follow them.

another thing I do is always check with my doctors. there are some really great medicated and non medicated ways to handle and balance the need/ wanting to be isolating when my depression / bipolar/ postpartum and so on make me feel the need to be alone.

one of the things I am presently doing too is making sure I am regularly in contact with people, why because watching the news causes me to need this. more and more it looks like a war stateside will happen, living in one of the major cities well many here are preparing for emergencies (for many USA states November is disaster preparedness month) one of those key elements is making sure that if something (health issues or disaster) happens that others know to look and check in with you. my wife and I have chosen a few neighbors in the community that during any problems at all we can check in with each other so that in emergencies/ disasters no one gets left behind kind of thing.

my point... since you are in isolating mode maybe you can pick a check in buddy that can at the least call you at a designated day and time to make sure other than isolating everything is ok and do you need anything that I can help you with kind of thing.
Thanks for this!
ACrystalGem