I've never left a T. I don't think I could. Granted, I have only had two - the first for 12 years and my current one for about a month. I knew I had to get someone good on the first try because I wouldn't be able to extricate myself if it was a bad fit. Longtime T allowed phone calls, texts, and emails. I still text her sometimes, since I just started with new T, but I'm trying to stop. New T has not provided her email or cell phone, so I assume she doesn't do that. I can call her at the office and leave a message - she doesn't have to be there to check her messages. I have not done this so far. I have a huge complex about being perceived as needy.