Yeah... idk. Youre not seeing the forest for the trees. It feels like youre trying to fit each successive new person into the same mold. Thats the forest, the pattern. The next guy will force the previous guy to treat you better, as long as you dont get the next guy mad at you. Eventually we run out of guys! At least i did! I mean, that was one of my fantasies, the point of marrying my t was so he would come to sunday family dinner and make the family be nice to me. Or at least shut them up. Now those are some unique vows!