When you love someone it is hard not to care what they think, try to please them, and need a little validation. I have learned that sometimes you need to love people for who they are flaws and all and not who you want them to be. Letting go of a mythical place where they are someone you want them to be is hard. I try to find my validation with friends, other family members, and my husband. Try to let their critique roll off of you, take a deep breathe and remember who you are and that you love yourself the way you are. Try, when they make rude remarks to say in your head, "this is their flaw but I love them anyway" If you want to hide things to make them more comfortable that's one thing but it's much easier with other things to give them time to adjust to the fact that this is who you are. Once they see it won't change there is more acceptance in my experience or they will at least keep it to themselves. Sending love and hugs. This is always a big challenge and you are doing great. You are yourself and you don't need to be anyone else's ideal person.