You are a very caring person..... and I really feel for both you are your brother...

my 2 cents... for what it is worth...

I don't know too much about foreclosure... is bankrupcy an option?
If not.. I would tend to agree with you..and the foreclousure.. and letting them take her car back..... there is just a point where the financials.. can overwhem a person....and it sounds like your brother has been thru the ringer....

Living with another person.. even a brother can be tricky.. as I found out when my son moved back in for a while... and the back out..

No.. my son does not know about my DID... and it was hard.... when he was underage and I was raising him.. all my "mom alters" took care of things... but.. with him as an adult.. it was different...and since he is my son..... not my brother... I felt that I could not discuss my DX with him... a brother.. I would feel comfortable with discussing it with him....

and unfortunately... there was a "woman" with my son that sounds like your brother's ex... and letting my son move back in... well.. didn't improve... my son giving to her when ever she called... though.. we do live in the same city.. so there was no physical distance...

we did work it out.....

the "size" of your living quarters... would you be "right on top of each other"?

I think that you are doing the "right" thing for your brother... by giving him a chance to get on his feet again....

(((((hugs)))))