I like to look at my momentary upset critically inside and express it when I feel it is relatively realistic considering the situation. But are were definitely things that can trigger me intensely and then I could be rather mean and impulsive, which I never felt was beneficial. I think I like best to discuss it in a civil manner, but that was pretty hard to do with one of my Ts, for example, who was far more reactive/emotional than myself. There was also the fact that I wanted to put my focus more on my own problems that brought me into therapy in the first place and spend less of it talking about the therapist-client dynamic, including negatives.