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When I told T I know I cross some boundaries with him he shook his head in agreement. So knowing this and taking the test, I am assuming he is going to hand me a contract this coming Wednesday.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Ahhh, so the contract will be all about his boundaries? If he thinks his boundaries are unclear to you, why not just have a discussion and clearly state his boundaries? Why make a contract out of it? I agree, that is humiliating. I really hope he doesn't do that. If he feels the need to have something written down, why not just give you a sheet of paper with a list of his boundaries and rules? You can read it in his presence. Why make you sign something? Yuck!!! I would think it strange if your T got so upset about a FAX. Are you sure he is bothered by this? I mean, what could be easier than simply telling the client in the next session, "hey, you sent my office a FAX last week, and actually I don't communicate with clients by FAX. Please contact me by phone the next time," or however he likes clients to contact him.

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If I respect and care for him as I say I do then I need to respect his boundaries. I just need to know exactly what that means to him. I just don't want one of those written contracts. I realize I am assuming he will give me one but I had a second session last week and then the fax....I'm scared.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">This makes my heart ache for you almedafan. Why on earth would someone need a contract to know not to use the FAX? I would feel really hurt by this whole thing. And I don't think you should feel that having 2 sessions a week is a boundary violation. If you asked him for a second session, and he gave you one, no boundaries have been violated! If he only sees clients once a week, it is up to him to not schedule you for a second. This isn't your fault!!

almedafan, I think you need some hugs and care.

I am still curious, how do you think your therapy direction will change because of this?

I am keeping my fingers crossed that your T does not whip out some contract about his boundaries. Honestly, T's are supposed to be such great communicators--why not just talk to you about this? GRRRRRRRRRR.... I'm sounding like a broken record. Sorry....