I think I do this a lot. I meet people then I kinda of morth them into what I think they are, accept what I'm really doing is putting part of me into them and then when they don't act how I think they should because of what I've created them to be, I feel lost, alone, I dont know myself. It appears I need to experience myself from without rather then within, is this where the abandonment pain comes from now? My own inner abandoment? whats the solution? how does one stop putting yourseif into another person/object??? why can't I have the same relationship with myself, by myself?