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I may have missed something, but it's possible that your sister in law was trying to respect you. She might have thought that you didn't want to hear from her.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Hi Doh2007, yes, the part you missed was that she sent the card to them at my house instead of at their father's house (her brother). There was no need to send it to them at my house. She has their other address. She wanted to show me something by excluding me and sending it to my house so I would be sure to see it. I've asked my own sister, for example, and she said if she wanted to send a card to my kids, of course it would be to my house, not the ex-spouse's. Not sure what that sister in law was thinking, but it doesn't seem respectful to me. I liked what you wrote about the relationships. If I want to maintain them, I need to give a sign to those I'm interested in.

bebop, thank you, I am going to send a card to the in-laws. I have known them for 20+ years now and I do care about them and their lives. I'll probably never see them again since they live so far away, but an annual card to catch up on how they are would be very nice.

There's a little more to this saga--when my H got back from the annual Christmas trip, his parents had included a present for me as well as some home-baked cookies, a tradition with them. I am known to very much like these particular cookies. So I will definitely send a thank you for this and a kind and newsy note. You know, no parent likes to see their child's marriage break up. I am sure they wished it had been happier and lasted forever too.