I knew that I could never commit to monogamy, even when I committed to monogamy. There is nothing brave or good about monogamy despite the shouting entertainment mogul’s cries.

Where did you get the idea that monogamy is good?

You are wrong about one partner being abandoned in a ‘three-way’ relationship. That has not been my experience or observation.

So, you asked your friend to suppress his nature and he agreed? Straight out of a pulp romance, yeah? If he finds a Real Live Girl who will help him express his nature, how long do you think he will choose his internet sweetheart?

I think that you are closing in on the Slippery Slopes, where you may falter or fall. These - ugh, I can’t believe that I will use the term - these cyber-relationships (ugh!) are tenuous. You are certainly not going to bed with this man and definitely not waking up with him. You have no idea what it might be like to be within a common space for 24-hours. You do not know one of his many scents and you do not know the back of his hand or his palm or the lengths of his fingers.

In hospices you will be told that the dying want and need ‘touch,’ physical contact, in their final stretches. I believe that is true of budding relationships, too. I cannot imagine a loving relationship without touch. I cannot.

Yet you seem to need this relationship? You want it to continue if you can control and limit your lover’s sexual desires?

If I were you I would take some time and dissect this online relationship to see just which needs it may be fulfilling and just what it lacks. And ‘whose needs’ are being fulfilled and whose’ lacking.

You chose to post in this sexuality forum and you chose well, in that, but you came in quashing the expressed sexuality within your original post. You cannot do that. You don’t get to do that. You are free to reject and free to accept but you don’t get to choose.