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Originally Posted by mindmechanic
Long story short, the therapist has a daughter who gave birth to a premature baby at 25 weeks. The therapist said that she would possibly consider moving out-of-state to help her daughter. Obviously that was very scary for me, and I went on an angry and hateful rant at my therapist. One of the things that I said was how is it fair at 15, 18, or 20 patients lives are going to be affected because two young people decides to shag up and have a baby? She responded in an elevated voice, "Did you think they wanted to have a premature baby?" She also said, "How about having a humanly reasonable response?"
She didn't acknowledge her unprofessionalism until I said how much that hurt and made me sick to my stomach. She said that that was completely unprofessional of her. No apology like I'm sorry. I later reiterated how bad I feel about it and she said that if she could take it back she would.
So that's it - long story short. I also feel like she is withholding empathy. She also asked me if I misheard her that it was only a possibility and that it wouldn't happen until six to twelve months from now. But that isn't the point. The idea of her moving out-of-state was bad enough. She seems to want to work through this with me. But I'm apprehensive about it.
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It was an unprofessional thing to say. But while your therapist shouldn't have raised her voice (and in my opinion, told you any of this stuff to begin with), I think it would help to consider your own response too. I can only go by what you've written in your post, but from what you've said I'm not sure if you're aware of how callous your words come across.
Again, it's not your job or responsibility to care for her, especially as this altercation began because of her poor judgment, but I can't say I'm surprised by her response. You've basically said, "F your s**t of a daughter. F your very ill granchild. I'm the important one."
I'm not sure what you want empathy for? What would you need from her to go forward?
I think asking for an apology for her raised voice or telling you off is fair game. But if you want her to empathise (and I take it, agree with you that she should choose you over her family), I don't think that's reasonable.