Well - just read this list, and possess and awful lot of those qualities. Not all of of them, all the time, but a lot. I guess narcissism falls in somewhere on this scale - just a total self involvement even at the expense of others feelings..

I ready the original post and I too have had lots of experiences where I am not feeling how everyone is feeling, i am just paying along.

My basic story for me is that i believe that I have an anxious/avoidant personality type, really only with close relationships. I have been with the same man for 20 years, but we are just constant up and down - more recently.

I drink - everyday - trying to kick that. i just feel like a mess really, I really came on this board to try to connect and share so that I can learn, grow, and feel better. I am open to any and all suggestions!

Any referrals to a great couples communication workbook - any healthy workbook for us to do together?

I am reading a lot of these posts and I am not antisocial, but definitely avoidant of close connections - happy to make surface ones.

[QUOTE=Gus1234U;5246586]interesting posts, Zdar. you might want to read a little of Dr. Hare's research on psychopathy. it is not an "it" , but a scale of responses based on brain developments. do let us know what you think about it's application to yourself ?

best wishes~