She has said hurtful things on more than one occasion over the 6 years I've been seeing her. And I have felt my share of miserable over them! So far we've worked through it each time it has happened, although the most recent time (this past summer) it was a pretty big rupture and I ended up quitting angrily via email, but then after some time of pure misery I went back and we worked through that one even and went on to do another really good chunk of work. We've talked about it since and I've realized part of that last bit of work was me actually learning for reals that relationships can be mended and things can be worked through*. My therapy has been all about the relationship, as convoluted as it is, my healing has happened because of and within this weird-***** sometimes crazy-making-in-itself relationship.

*I always used to think ANY time I'd get in an argument or disagreement with someone "They hate me now!" and stuff like that.