I have no children, despite being married for about 20 years. It just wasn't in the cards for my husband and I. We didn't even try. I wasn't even thinking about a family, other than a very passing thought, through my early 30s despite being married at 26. I was too career oriented, and hypomanic most of the time.

At 34, the very worst years of my bipolar started with full blown manias, many with mixed features and psychosis. The very worst lasted four years ending in a long severe depression. Then for a few additional years I had other significant mental health issues. I've been on disability for seven years now, and was off and on long-term disability for the four years prior. I am still not in a place where I could reduce my medications to the point of safely getting pregnant. I am also still not in a mental state or financial situation to even consider having them. Not having children does not sadden me like it would many women. My husband is even less interested. To top it all off, I'm almost 47 years old now and my husband is almost 60. That's it.