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Originally Posted by pegasus
The fact you kissed someone else years ago and your girlfriend is still with you, I think you can let that one go now.
The thing is you are aware of the lying and you know the reasons why, have you shared this with your girlfriend? Does she understand the reasons? If she accepts that and she can also call you out on it, you can work together on this one. If your relationship appears to be going south, go back to basics, dating and dining. I think you can get through this if you are honest with the one you love. Go to couples counseling if necessary, if you both want to work on this.
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Thank you.
I have shared this with her - and while at times she can sit and listen there are times she spews out "I don't care why - it's that you do it" and it feels like I'm wasting my breath. She has a lot of mental health issues and sometimes it's hard for her to be stable, but when she is we can talk more and things go less rocky. It has just gotten to the point where the "calling out" just explodes into a fight rather than a discussion as to why and how to make it right - its right to anger and volatile outbursts.
We are seeking a couples counselor now, in hopes they can provide more help.