@stopdog: I'm still considering returning to this therapist because we've had a good relationship for the past two years where she had been supportive and available. After this incident, I conveyed to her that I thought therapy was a place where I could say anything that came to my mind. And she said agreed, but said that there were some boundaries - which I didn't understand because I couldn't see the distinction. She understood that boundaries were difficult for me to understand so we let that go for the meantime.

I guess whether I stay on or not would depend a lot on how the next few sessions progress. At least she was able to acknowledge her unprofessionalism; some therapists won't even recognize that and continue to be defensive about it. And she is open to working through this "rupture" with me. What I'm worried about is whether she is able to be fully present with me and listen to me in a neutral and professional manner. When I voiced that concern to her, she said that that was for her to worry about and take care of. Well; yes it is. But you can't expect me to feel as safe with you as I did before this incident.

I had bad experiences with previous therapists in the past, and didn't return to therapy for five years. I thought that therapy was a joke. So if things with this therapist doesn't work out, I don't think that I would look for another one again.