I was a virgin at 27 too, and for a few year after. I wanted to wait for the right one. I'm glad I waited because she's my wife and I love her to bits. But I'm with you on feeling inadaquate and lacking self-confidence--I'm always dealing with those issues but I've gotten better with therapy.

It's sort of like a bad cycle. You lack confidence, so you project to people that you're insecure. No one is attracted to you because of your insecurity, so you lose even more confidence in yourself. You have to break the cycle. What do you like to do or what do you do really well? Is there a club or a social group, college, church you could join? Build your self-esteem--that is going to come from within--you can't rely on a woman to do that for you. It doesn't work that way.

Remember, that when it comes to sexual behavior, a lot of guys ******** a lot. These days, no one admits to being a virgin over 20--so people lie about it and make %#@&#! up. You don't have to believe everyone. And look at it this way--you don't have to worry about STD's or AIDS and you don't have any unwanted kids out there with the added financial stress.