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Originally Posted by unaluna
Its who you are - you were sensitive to her nuances - thats okay. She made the decision not to stonewall you early on. Thats okay too. But i dont think its fair NOW to say, "well a REAL t with PROFESSIONAL boundaries wouldnt have blah blah blah." Thats not the t i presume you wanted, because you poked at the boundaries. You make them leaky. Again, i think thats okay.
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I don't think you can blame the client for the consequences when the client pokes at the boundaries and the therapist then allows the boundaries to be breached. I should be free to poke at all sorts of boundaries (including taboo things and things that are completely off-limits in a therapist/client relationship or in any relationship, for that matter) without my T giving in. I trust her to know how to keep us both safe, which is why I'm free to explore wherever my mind goes. The mess that results from the leaky boundaries is on the therapist's hands, not the client's. If the leak doesn't bother either of them, then it isn't a problem, but that isn't what's happening here.