First time posting. I'm glad I found this forum!
I don't know if my husband has a mental illness. We have been married 20 years and it has gotten progressively worse. He has acquired much debt and is getting worse. Just last year, we lost our home and filed bankruptcy. Already, he's accumulated over $20,000 of debt! He is self-employed and his occupation (life insurance salesman) has not been able to meet our financial obligations. (I work full time) He refuses to look for other work even part time just to compensate for the lack of his full time job. He promises that he will do better and lives in denial that he has any problems! Just last week he let me know that he had many outstanding checks and his account was overdrawn. He now owes $600 in bank fees! This is an endless cycle! I feel like leaving him, perhaps jolting him to reality and hoping he gets help. We argue constantly and I am convinced something is definitely wrong with him, yet I haven't a clue what kind of disorder it could be. He refuses to be an 'employee' elsewhere because he won't submit to authority nor 'punch the clock.' HELP!!