A couple of weeks ago, I was going through my "you don't belong to me" mode. - having never been made to feel I belong with my adoptive mother, this is an issue, that comes up every so often.
T often says I do belong, and that I can take my place with her for granted.
So when I began struggling with what this whole relationship is, trying to place it. Telling T that's she's not a friend, not a mother,I have no way of really relating her in conversation in my life outside, that is neither here nor there. T said, do you have to place it, does it have to have a fixed place, a, relationship that fits, in with the norms. Can't it just be what it is between us here and now and f*** society?
That hit home. I did, yes I like they. Now it makes sense it is enough just as it is. It doesn't have to be explainable.