I have a similar thing that ive discussed with my ts.

One incident comes to mind. In 9th grade, my first year in public school, there was a sadie hawkins dance. I mentioned to a girl in gym class that i thought a certain guy was cute. She told me he liked me too. So i asked him. He said, lady, i dont even know you! Turns out i had confided in his steady gf! I guess she decided to teach me a lesson and embarrass me. I was like, all she had to do was tell me that was HER bf - i was just clueless.

But mostly i was puzzled. I was like - was that supposed to hurt my feelings? Did she think it was possible for HER to hurt my feelings? I didnt even know who she was, how could she hurt me? In talking with my ts, we figured out i was immune to any school bullying because the "teasing" i got at home was pretty brutal.

I learned from it tho. I was like a 10 year old girl Don Rickles. Sarcastic AF. No heart.

Thats why you see me struggle with it here. Constant jokes, but a tender remark when someone is hurting is very difficult for me. It helps that my t LOOKS like a sweet little puppy dog.