I met with my pdoc today.. just a "check-up" sort of thing. She acts mostly as a T for me, as I don't have one at the moment... Anyways, we got talking about relationships in my life that have had a significant affect on me, but are no longer present. We were talking about one woman in particular, and I was telling her about how we don't have much contact anymore. I went into further detail about why that is, and how i felt there wasn't much I could do about it, as i was in the same situation at this time last year.

Anyways, she then pointed out that I really had all-or-none thinking. The second she said that I thought "Bam, cognitive distortion #1" lol.

But i'm a little uncertain to how i can "fix" this way of thinking... its not that i don't recognize it, if anything i'm constantly seeing that my way of thinking (in this situation) is black and white, rather than shades of grey. But while i can acknowledge it, how to i go about changing my thinking so that it's not so all or nothing?

Any suggestions?