I know you are going to be advised to «*work through it*» but work through what exactly?
There is nothing to work through in my experience and it doesn’t get better either.
I also don’t understand why there is always this assumption that transference stems from trauma.
I was incredibly attached and obsessed with my therapist and I have no trauma, didn’t suffer any abuse, had a very happy childhood, have a good relationship with my parents. I was simply depressed and lonely (depression is pretty isolating).
I only got better because I was terminated. It was a blessing in disguise that allowed me to escape that hell.

People talk about working through it but it always means spending months/years in therapy discussing problems that were induced by therapy itself instead of addressing the reasons you went to therapy in the first place. And then what? Would you feel better? Happier? More fulfilled? From what I have read it doesn’t seem to be the case for a lot of people who decided to stick with their therapist in order to «*work through it*»

I know how impossible it feels to leave a therapist you are attached to, you feel like you won’t be able to survive. It feels that way but it is not real in my experience.
You can leave and get better, perhaps with another therapist.
I don’t have any advice, just that the recquirement to stay with a therapist in the hopes of revolving transference usually doesn’t work.